ALISON FARADAY
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The term is said to come from the 1940’s film Gaslight where Chris Boyer uses the gaslights in their house to make his wife Ingrid Bergman think that she is going crazy. His aim was to get his hands on her inheritance. The term Gaslighting, however, is a more modern reference to this. So what is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a range of behaviours where the sole purpose is to control an individual to the point where the individual starts to doubt their own truth, memories and

A quick explanation of Internal Family Systems IFS and working with the parts of our personality.

Description of what it is like to come to counselling with me.

This blog looks a some common ways that ADHD can affect partnerships and what can be done to work with this.

Have you ever been in mid-discussion with someone and suddenly felt as though you have come up against a stone wall? This is how stonewalling feels hence the name. It is where another person silences you in some way. They might put the phone down in the middle of a conversation, walk out of the room while you are still talking, tell you they have no interest in what you are saying or they make it very clear that the discussion is now over and they are no longer listening even

What does narcissistic abuse look like? Think of a person who thinks only of themselves, who uses others to get their needs met, no matter how inconvenient that is to another person. Whatever happens, it is always your fault and you often believe you are the one to blame. You stop trusting your intuition as you are told on the occasion you voice your view that it is wrong and often you are made to feel ashamed for believing what you do. It can feel as though you are walking o

Explaining how perfectionism is a defence mechanism learned in childhood.

We all have a Critical Inner Voice (also known as our Inner Critic or Critical Voice), this could also be called our Conscience; it helps us to make choices that are not going to harm anyone. In other words, this inner voice keeps us on the straight and narrow and guides us to make ‘the right’ or socially acceptable choices. It also has another function; it protects us from negative comments and behaviours of others and avoids you getting into trouble. In other words, our cri